How do I deal with my troubles and problems?

 How do I deal with my troubles and problems?

We may find ourselves as if we are in a maze. We do not know the correct decision and we do not know how to get rid of the suffering and problems facing us. We find ourselves as if we are facing a road covered in fog, making it difficult to see and unable to move forward. We remain stuck in a maze of fatigue. Perhaps we are exhausted because of our personal lives, from the problems we have encountered or There are ambitions that we have not achieved, or we have become tired, and perhaps we get lost due to problems at work or problems in our studies. There are many problems that we do not know how to get out of, and perhaps, sometimes, we do not realize what the problem is and what is tiring us out.

Some of our problems may come from the outside, from our environment, from our circumstances. Our problems may be due to certain financial or economic conditions or social problems with some people, and our suffering may be due to the pressures of work and study and our inability to deal with them.

Our problems may be within us, due to feelings of sadness and pain that do not leave us, or due to our fears that we cannot escape, and perhaps due to our feelings of guilt, inferiority, or lack of appreciation.

There are many difficulties around us, and in many cases our problems are a combination of multiple psychological, social, environmental, economic, and professional factors, and the most dangerous thing is sometimes when we cannot know our problems.

The most important step in dealing with any problem is to acknowledge its existence.

First, we must realize that our thoughts and perceptions about things around us and about ourselves are important in alleviating suffering. We must think carefully about our image of ourselves, our identity, and the things around us, and look at our troubles accurately so that we remove the fog from them and see them clearly and clearly, and understand the causes of our problems. and available solutions.

After we identify our problem and know its causes and the solutions available to us, we must choose the best solution and begin implementing the solution and evaluate whether the problem has been solved and whether we are satisfied with the solution.

Our problems are different and may be more complex, but let us establish broad outlines for dealing with our personal problem.

Steps to solve our problems:

The first step: knowing myself:

Knowing ourselves is a crucial factor in our psychological health and in reassurance, which is the most important thing a person possesses. Therefore, we must know and ask ourselves to realize who we are and what the nature of our feelings, thoughts, goals, objectives, and strengths and weaknesses are.

Step Two: Identify the problem:

We must identify the problem facing us and research to understand the dimensions of the problem. This requires us to answer several questions:

What is the problem?

When did it start happening?

How has this problem affected my life?

How do I feel about this problem?

Step Three: Find the causes of the problem:

Knowing the causes of our problems is a decisive factor in solving them. Knowing the cause of the problem will provide us with a good vision to develop a solution map that addresses the problem and therefore deals with the causes of this problem.

Therefore, we must determine the causes of the problems and what is behind these troubles facing us. Here we are looking for real, logical reasons and not imaginary reasons that we may invent.

Step Four: Search for Solutions:

Of course, there are solutions and there are options available to deal with our problems, and we must search for a list of solutions. We can obtain solutions through our logical thinking about solving the problem and from our experiences or by consulting a friend or relative. We may search for solutions through the Internet or the experiences of others.

Step Five: Choose the best solution.

Now we have a list of potential solutions to our problem and we have to choose one solution from them, so we must include within our list of solutions the consequences of implementing each solution, measure the feasibility of application, and ultimately choose the optimal solution.

Step Six: Apply the solution:

Apply the solution and start solving your problems. Make the right decision and start working. Do not postpone, start and get rid of your problems by applying the solution you have chosen.

Step Seven: Evaluation and Review:

At this stage, ask yourself: Has the problem been solved, has the suffering been eliminated, and is everything okay?

If the answer is "yes", you should be satisfied that you have eliminated the problem.

If the answer is “no,” then you must return to the list of solutions. You may have chosen an inappropriate solution and you must try a new solution. You may have to seek help from someone and seek advice.

When do I ask for help?

You can always ask for help and seek advice from others, but sometimes you may need special help from expert people who are able to provide unusual support that your surroundings may not be able to provide.

For example, if your problem is professional, you can seek help from a colleague, an expert in your field, a human resources employee, or anyone you think has sufficient experience to provide a helping hand.

If your problem is related to education, you can consult your teacher, educational counselor, or psychological counselor.

If your problem is psychological and personal, you can seek help from a psychological counselor or psychiatrist.

It is important to realize that the presence of problems in our lives is normal, and problems will meet us at all stages of our lives. We must work to develop our ability to solve problems and deal with difficulties, and strive diligently to deal with difficulties and not leave our problems unsolved, and think positively about our lives, our family, and our society, and most importantly. To take care of our mental health, to ensure that we strengthen ourselves, and to be able to adapt to our lives and its difficulties.

Remember, always take care of yourself.

By: Maher Daboul